Some think I’m crazy for waiting to have another baby. “Don’t you want them to be close in age?” “You’re getting older, it might take a while” “two is easier than one” people would say to me.
Yes, I totally get these responses and I do want another baby (badly) but i just want to wait, a little while longer.
Is that a bad thing?
Why I chose to wait to have another baby:
1. The number one reason being I want to have time to enjoy my son first!
I don’t want to rush our time together. I want to be able to spend quality time with him and help him learn and grow as an independent individual before the chaos of another family member comes into play.
2. I want to learn how to be a better parent for my kids.
I’ve been taking the time I’ve had with my son and learning what my true strengths and weaknesses are and improving on them. So when I am ready to have another baby the stress of having two or even three will be a more manageable concept for me.
I have found (just an observational opinion) that when mamas have babies so close in age things get chaotic and sort of out of control and life becomes unorganized. I want to make mamahood as simple and stress free (but not totally stress free, we are parents after all) as possible.
I’m usually the plan as you go type of girl but when it comes to major life decisions (like this one) I want to plan and prepare because failure is not an option for me. I want to make sure I can give my kids their best life and if waiting is going to do that then, I’m happy to wait.
3. Recovery time
It’s important for a woman’s body to recover fully from having a baby, before having another one. It’s recommended to wait at least 18 months before getting pregnant again to avoid complications. There’s not a guarantee of complications but the risks are higher if your body isn’t fully recovered.
I want to enjoy pregnancy with as little complications as possible.
By the time I have a second baby I want to make it possible to stay home with both of my children. It’s not that I don’t want to work (SAHMing is totally work) I just want to have the time my kids need from me to make sure they are growing into caring, motivated and respectful adults.
5. No more diapers
I want to give my son time to potty train so by the time we do have another baby only one of them is in diapers. This will make things so much easier on us down the road. Changing two diapers isn’t a bad thing but I want to make the transition from having one kid to have two kids easier and this is one way that will help (hopefully).
I know many people will disagree with why I’m choosing to wait to have another baby but for me, this is what feels right for our family.
Babies are a blessing and I want to make sure I can truly enjoy them.
I am a mama of an adorable 2.5-year-old boy who has stolen my heart completely. I love random dance parties, nature and spending time with my family when I’m not building my business. I am the founder of Simplifyingmamahood.com where I help other mamas learn to simplify their often chaotic lives to learn to love their lives and start enjoying motherhood again.
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