I was sitting in an evening yoga class when the question came “What lie or false truth have you been telling yourself lately.”
Immediately it popped into my head.
“I don’t have time for the things I love. I don’t have time for joy.”
We’re moms. We’re busy. SO busy. Whether you have one kid or nine, whether you work in an office or don’t, whether you are a single mom or married. We’re all so busy.
And that unconscious lie is one we probably all tell ourselves all too often.
You don’t have time for joy. You barely have time to survive the day. There’s no way you have time for joy.
It’s such a lie.
When I made that realization in yoga, I decided I needed to make a change. I couldn’t figure out how—my days already start way too early and are packed with trying to get everything done.
I thought about this for days and weeks. How could I find more minutes and hours in the day for joy? The realization came crashing down on me about a month later as my little boy and I walked down the street to get the mail. It was a little chilly and he was walking slowly, staring at the rocks on the ground and pausing when he heard a noise. I was hustling him along. And it hit me.
THIS IS JOY. This could be a joyful moment, and I am not allowing myself to make time for it.
I kneeled down and looked at rocks with my son. I laughed as he pointed out things on the short walk to the mailbox.
I don’t have extra hours in my day to spend relaxing. And that’s OK.
I took a good, hard look at how I was spending my time. I can make time for joy by focusing on it when it comes. I can make time for joy on our walk to the mailbox and back. It’s five extra minutes. I have time for that.
I can make time for joy when we’re folding laundry and my son wants to be silly with the warm towels. It’s a few minutes, and some refolding, but that’s OK. I have time for that.
I can make time for joy when I do my hair and makeup in the morning. I can blast a song I love or listen to a podcast (like The Mamahood!) and not feel guilty for putting on a show for my son so I get some ME time. I have time for that.
I can make time for joy by going to get a cookie from the cookie spot down the street and sitting there and eating it with my little boy. It’s 20 minutes, and both of us love cookies. I have time for that.
As I’ve been more intentional about finding and making time for the joyful moments in my life, I have shut down that lying, untrue thought that I don’t have time for joy.
The reality is, I don’t have time or energy to ignore joy any longer. I can’t continue to thrive as a mom, as a wife, as a daughter, as a sister, as an employee, or as a friend unless I make time for the joy in my life.
I’m looking for the things that are already part of my life and my routine and making them more joyful. I can make time for joy without having to cut out anything else that’s important. I can find joy in every moment, and tell that voice that it’s SO wrong.
I have plenty of time for joy.
Maddy Low is the proud mama of a little boy named Graham who she is absolutely obsessed with. She graduated with a degree in communication from Brigham Young University, and works full time from home doing web content and web design. She’s been married to her high school sweetheart since 2015, loves writing, traveling, long walks through the aisles at Target, chocolate, and connecting with other moms.
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