Choose Your Love, Love Your Choice

We all make choices; everyday we make hundreds of choices. One of the biggest choices we will make is who we choose to marry. 

To the girl who feels pressured to get married just because all her friends are getting married. Stop. 

To the girl who feels left out, because all her friends are already married and she’s not. Stop. 

To the girl who just got her heart broken by her “soulmate,” and feels like she will never find love again. You will. 

To the girl whose fiancé called off the engagement and she feels like she will never find love again. You will. 

To the girl who watches another girl get “the guy” and feels like she will never find love again. You will. 

To the girl who feels she isn’t pretty enough, smart enough, fun enough to be loved by a man. You ARE. 

Do not settle. Have high standards, but also realize nobody is perfect. Be a woman who lives up to those standards herself. Don’t rush. Slow down. The choice you make in who you marry is a huge decision. One that will literally change your life. And I am here to tell you, when your decision in who you choose to marry proves to be the best decision you’ve ever made, you will be glad you were patient. You will be glad you had those high standards. 

I honestly never thought of the possibility of marriage as a teenager. I dated here and there, but didn’t think of any of them as potential husbands. I just didn’t have that mindset. I felt totally out of the loop in that sense, since what girl isn’t boy crazy at that age? But then I met a boy, two years after I graduated high school. I was actually preparing to go on a Church mission when I met this boy. It came to a point where I had to make a decision. Do I pursue the mission or do I continue to date this boy? I chose the boy, and oh my stars, I am sure glad I did! I am also, still to this day, shocked he chose ME to spend his life with. I really lucked out with this love of mine. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love him with my whole heart and soul. 

So, to the woman who has found her love and married her love. LOVE him. 

To the woman who stays home with the little humans, and sometimes feels overwhelmed and under appreciated. Know that your husband appreciates you and everything you do even if he may not always say it. He loves YOU. 

To the woman who works outside of the home and is a mother. You’re not failing your kids or husband. You are not doing anything wrong. Maybe you’re working because, financially, you have to. Or maybe you’re working, because it brings you joy and makes you a better wife and mom if you are contributing to things outside of the home. You do you and know that it’s OK! Don’t let others make you feel inferior. Your family loves you. 

And to the woman who is ever so grateful for her husband. Love him. Every day, love him. Show that love. Express it in every way you can. Remember, you didn’t just choose him…he chose you.