When I first became pregnant, I was ecstatic. Then I started to show, and I loved showing off my cute little bump in those early stages. Then I started to get big and my hips started to hurt and I thought, “That’s okay I can keep doing this for a little.” And then I got BIG and I was like, “Okay. I’m over this and ready to meet this babe.” Fast forward, coming home with baby girl.. “Wait, this is my baby? What am I supposed to do now?” These are just some of the few things that went through my mind.
Fast forward two months, I practically know everything.
Every day is SO different with a baby, so I wanted to write this post about things I’ve learned in two months, being a first time mom, in hopes I can help some mamas-to-be and new mamas.
First things first, you do not necessarily need all the fancy, trendy baby gear. I worried about not being able to get all the doodads I would see on Instagram. Guess what, it’s OKAY. Truly all your baby needs is you, a home, and love. Okay and diapers, clothes, blankets and burp rags. I honestly did not end up using a handful of the baby gear I thought I would, I’ve heard you will use a lot of them later, so please do not worry! Just love on that baby and be patient with yourself. Which brings me to my next piece of advice, YOU.
Second, give yourself time. Time to recover, time to adjust, time to eat and time by yourself (even if that means setting your baby down and going to the bathroom, honestly! It’s harder than you think ;)) Be patient with yourself and your body, you just gave birth!
Third, learn to eat with one hand! Seriously, I’m not kidding. Sometimes it is hard to put your baby down, depending on if they just ate, if they fell asleep in your arms, or they’re just having a hard day. I have learned to eat with one hand and to type with one hand, because sometimes I know Reese is having a hard day and needs those mama cuddles. Also, being in grad school I’ve had to learn how to type with one hand, it can be done!
Fourth, spray your clothes where your baby spits up on them. This may be common sense to others, but not me, ha! I would just throw my clothes in the laundry, but then I would pull out the shirts with big dark stains on them. I had no idea spit up stains! It does, people! Speaking of laundry, the fifth thing I have learned is do one load of laundry for your baby a day. It piles up! I know laundry is hard to do at the beginning (I just barely started doing it again), so tell your husband to do it!
Fifth, I have learned that if your baby only wants naptime to happen on you, wrap them to you. I spent so many days being frustrated because I couldn’t get anything done because Reese would only take naps in my arms. And there are naps I am totally okay with that, but other times.. Mama needs to get stuff done! If I wrap her to me, it’s a win win. I get housework, school work, etc. done, and she takes a nap.
Sixth, I’ve learned, for me, I need to at least do my make up for the day. A simple concealer, mascara, and blush is all it takes really quickly, so I feel a little bit put together for the day, even if I end up staying at home. I feel someone back to my normal self.
Seventh, get out at least once a day. Even if that means walking down the street and back a few times. Sunshine does the soul wonders. Especially when you are inside all day long, taking care of your babe. I think I spent three days straight inside one week and my husband came home from class and said: you need to get out. I got her, you go on a walk. I was nervous leaving her but holy moly cow! I came back 15 minutes later so much more refreshed.
Eighth, accept help! I was so hesitant to have anyone come over, to see me and our house a mess. But guess what.. If they’re offering, they don’t care! This means you are surrounded by wonderful people that want to help.
Last but not least, do not get caught up in the social media world. I cannot tell you how many times I would almost be in tears because I would see mamas all dressed, ready, and beautiful, just weeks after giving birth. And there I was in the same spit up clothes from yesterday with a bun on top of my head.
Remember what you just did! Remember how much your baby loves you for taking care of them and loving them. Remember how amazing you are!
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