Monday Mama: These Moments Are For You

November 10, 2014 in Love Notes / Monday Mama

Today’s Monday Mama is my cute friend Heather. She is originally from California and currently living in Utah. She graduated with a teaching degree at BYU, taught for a few years, and just recently had the sweetest babe.

This is her story.

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“As I lay in bed the other night, trying to quiet my racing mind, I couldn’t stop thinking of all the things I needed to get done, the stuff I had forgotten, the dinner I hadn’t made that day and the healthier food I should have given my baby for a snack instead of the bazillion crackers she begged for. I realized I still hadn’t taken “9 month old” pictures of her, and she’s already halfway to being 10 months old now. I thought of the clothes I should put her in more often before she grows out of them. I wept thinking of the minutes I had wasted on my computer or phone instead of playing with her. I felt like I was failing her as a mother because I wasn’t reading enough books to her or using enough sign language while I had the chance to teach her. And it all just got so overwhelming, so quickly.

Then, out of nowhere, the thought hit me: These beginning years of our child’s life is not for them. They have no memory, no recollection of these early stages. This time is for us, the parents!

Our child won’t remember the things we did to make them laugh or the times we messed something up. They won’t remember what they wore coming home from the hospital, or what solid food they tried first. They quickly forgot the bumps and bruises they inevitably received as they developed and learned. Our children only know what they looked like because of the pictures and videos we made the time to capture. All the worry and work we go through in these first days, weeks, months, years…It’s all important, but it’s mostly important only to us, the parents, because WE are the ones who will remember.

We will remember their first night home. We will remember their first steps, their endless smiles and giggles. We will remember the trial and error every new parent faces, and our patient (or screaming) baby’s reactions to all the new stimuli. We will be the ones to cherish and reminisce about these days. As long as we keep that little bundle of joy (and craziness) alive, they are good to go. They don’t notice if we skip our only chance (during nap time) to shower because we wanted to make our version of a sensory book for them to enjoy. They don’t see the bags under our eyes because we just wanted to hold them a little longer after they finally drifted off to sleep at night. Don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t take those fancy newborn pictures or feed your second child the organic, homemade purees you made for your first. They won’t regret it. They won’t be hurting for it later because they won’t remember it! And, heaven knows, they don’t care if we do or don’t throw them a big First Birthday party with a beautiful cake and lots of presents and guests they may or may not even recognize.
But DO cherish your child and these early moments while they last. Even through the hardships, the uncertainties, the tears–hold on. Because these moments are for you.”
Adalynn

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  • loblee November 10, 2014 at 3:02 pm

    Totally agree! Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • loblee November 10, 2014 at 3:02 pm

    Totally agree! Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • bweston11 November 10, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    Agree! I love this blog and all these women for sharing their stories!

  • bweston11 November 10, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    Agree! I love this blog and all these women for sharing their stories!

  • Eryka Ann Clark November 11, 2014 at 3:08 am

    Loved this!!!

  • Eryka Ann Clark November 11, 2014 at 3:08 am

    Loved this!!!

  • Redeeming The Day (@RedeemingTheDay) November 14, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    So true!!! I love it!! Some great points in there. I love being a momma. Its hard not to get wrapped up in a to-do list! Laundry and dishes can wait!

  • Redeeming The Day (@RedeemingTheDay) November 14, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    So true!!! I love it!! Some great points in there. I love being a momma. Its hard not to get wrapped up in a to-do list! Laundry and dishes can wait!

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