Monday Mama

January 5, 2015 in Uncategorized

I’m so excited to get back in the swing of things with our Monday Mama spotlights! I love reading about other moms and being able to relate to them.

Today’s Monday Mama is the beautiful Natalie. She loves sushi, crafting, fashion, traveling, fishing, and most importantly being a mama to her cute Makayla. She blogs over at Keeping Up with Makayla.

Here’s her story:

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“Most of you have either heard of or possibly experienced the ‘mommy blues’. That overwhelming feeling of having to take care of an infant on little to no sleep while still maintaining your life, yeah that feeling. While some experience a much worse feeling, postpartum depression.

In the first few months as a new mommy you feel anxious about taking care of your new, fragile little ‘cub’. At the same time you are sleep deprived, possibly covered in spit up, and may have not showered in a day or two. You may have also experienced a sense of loss for who you used to be. I’m here to tell you, it’s normal.

After my little girl was born I was overwhelmed, stressed, tired, and more. I felt like a completely different person and no one understood. Shortly after my daughter turned 3 months old I went to my doctor to discuss how I have been feeling. I had been in denial of my feelings for months and it was effecting my marriage, my work, everything. With my daughter in my arms, tears running down my face I explained to the doctor my sense of feeling completely lost, depressed, and overwhelmed. I felt like the worst mother in the world. I mean who am I to be depressed? I have a healthy, beautiful little girl. I had a very easy labor and birth. I felt guilty for being depressed with everything I was blessed with while other mothers sit in the NICU wishing they could hold their little one or have a little one born with a serious medical condition.

After a long talk with my doctor he let me know it is okay to feel this way, that it is completely normal.

My advice to new mommies dealing with the “mommy blues” or postpartum depression is this….

  1. Talk. Talk to someone, anyone. If your husband or significant other does not understand, talk with a loved one or friend. Don’t be afraid that they will judge you, it’s completely normal. Becoming a mother is beautiful, crazy, scary, and overwhelming.
  2. Pray. And pray hard.
  3. Face your feelings with acceptance. I was in denial for months. If I would have just accepted my feelings I could have enjoyed those first few months with my little girl a little more.
  4. Keep a journal. Write your feelings down. Look back on them in a week or month. You’ll be amazed how different you feel. It will also give you a sense of control. Don’t let your feelings take over.
  5. Take time for yourself. Take a couple hours each week to go do something for you. Go get a manicure/pedicure. Get a massage. Take a bath. Do something for you, you deserve it!
  6. Time management. Learn how to manage your time. As a new mom you will be juggling the tasks of several different occupations. Learn to manage your time wisely and take deep breaths. You are not going to get everything done in one day. Prioritize your tasks by most important.
  7. Work out. Go for a walk, jog, run. Join a gym, yoga class, anything!
  8. Get Assistance. Do not be afraid to ask for help. I thought I could do it all on my own. I felt if I was going to be the best mother I had to be able to do everything myself. Wrong! Let others help. It takes a village to raise a child.
  9. Date.  Go on a date at least twice a month with your spouse or significant other. Your spouse/significant other should still come first.
  10. Lastly, seek professional help. If you feel like nothing else will work it is okay to get help. It is okay to take medicine {only if prescribed by a professional}.

Don’t be ashamed of how you feel. You are not alone! And in the end your new little family is all that matters.”

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  • dee January 5, 2015 at 5:00 pm

    Very touching

  • dee January 5, 2015 at 5:00 pm

    Very touching

  • Jamie January 7, 2015 at 12:34 am

    Such a serious topic…one that needs to be discussed! I had issues with 3 of my 4 kids…thanks for sharing!! God Bless!

  • Jamie January 7, 2015 at 12:34 am

    Such a serious topic…one that needs to be discussed! I had issues with 3 of my 4 kids…thanks for sharing!! God Bless!

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