I’ve had this word in my head recently: Mompreneur.
So I decided to look it up. (and yes it is in the dictionary!)
Mompreneur: a female business owner who is actively balancing the role of mom and the role of entrepreneur.
Can I ask all you mompreneurs out there though, honestly… how’s it going? Like truly. I don’t want this post to come out negative in the least. I just want to show you a little bit of what my brain has been going crazy about.
Why is it that when you become a mom, all of a sudden you have this urge to create something? Whether that be blogging, photography, crafting, selling products, joining an MLM company, (and believe me, I belong in most of those categories myself). And when you create something you feel like it’s a race. Whether it’s on social media trying to get a following, the most sales, the next ranking, or wanting to come up with the next best idea to be on shark tank (Again…I plead the fifth!)
I can get pretty competitive myself, so this race has me wanting to get my tennis shoes on and go gun-ho on any project I tackle. But why?
Why is it that we can’t just be a mom? Why do we feel like we have to come up with something or do something in order to feel successful?
I get it though. Being a mom is hard and sometimes you just need an outlet. Paydays come in kisses and arms around your neck but sometimes you need something else to validate your beautiful project you’ve worked on. I think it’s great! So many women have so much to offer and whether you’re doing it as a hobby or to gain a little cash on the side, more power to you. You’re improving your talents and showing your kids how to work hard and there’s so much goodness to that.
But here’s my message…
It’s not a race.
I think it’s time for us to quit worrying about everyone else and start worrying about ourselves and the lives we are creating for our little ones. It’s so easy to compare our successes with others but really what is determined as “success”?
This week I turned off my “mompreneur” mode and decided to be 100% mom. I’ve been devoting my time to be on the floor, playing with my little boy and keep the screens turned off for a minute and focus on just being a mom–his mom. Projects are on hold and he’s center stage. I can’t describe to you the amount of laughs we’ve had and how much our connection and bond has grown just by putting other distractions aside.
I love this quote by David O. Mckay:
“This ability and willingness properly to rear children, the gift to love, and eagerness, yes, longing to express it in soul development, make motherhood the noblest office or calling in the world. She who can paint a masterpiece or write a book that will influence millions deserves the admiration and the plaudits of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters, whose influence will be felt through generations to come, . . . deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God.”
Women are amazing at multitasking, but sometimes I think our kids deserve to NOT be one of the “tasks” we have at hand. They’re apart of our lives and our time with them being this little doesn’t last very long. I don’t want to be too busy and have this sweet time slip from my fingers.
Something that has always bothered me is the “followers” social media has. It’s like social currency or star stickers. The more you have the more successful people think you are. I feel like it’s time to care more about who our little ones are “following” and what they are “liking” instead of worrying about the numbers on our accounts.
So to all my mompreneur friends out there, I think you’re doing an amazing job. And if you’re able to balance it all I would love to hear your tricks! Everyone is doing the best they can and that’s what counts! I just think it’s important that we all remember what really matters and that by “just being a mom” and putting our kids ahead of our other endeavors, we are actually a lot more ahead and “successful” than we might realize.