Mompreneurs: It’s Not a Race

April 14, 2016 in For Mamas / Love Notes

mompreneur

 

I’ve had this word in my head recently: Mompreneur.

So I decided to look it up. (and yes it is in the dictionary!)

Mompreneur: a female business owner who is actively balancing the role of mom and the role of entrepreneur.

Can I ask all you mompreneurs out there though, honestly… how’s it going? Like truly. I don’t want this post to come out negative in the least. I just want to show you a little bit of what my brain has been going crazy about.

The race.

Why is it that when you become a mom, all of a sudden you have this urge to create something? Whether that be blogging, photography, crafting, selling products, joining an MLM company, (and believe me, I belong in most of those categories myself). And when you create something you feel like it’s a race. Whether it’s on social media trying to get a following, the most sales, the next ranking, or wanting to come up with the next best idea to be on shark tank (Again…I plead the fifth!)

I can get pretty competitive myself, so this race has me wanting to get my tennis shoes on and go gun-ho on any project I tackle. But why?

Why is it that we can’t just be a mom? Why do we feel like we have to come up with something or do something in order to feel successful?

I get it though. Being a mom is hard and sometimes you just need an outlet. Paydays come in kisses and arms around your neck but sometimes you need something else to validate your beautiful project you’ve worked on. I think it’s great! So many women have so much to offer and whether you’re doing it as a hobby or to gain a little cash on the side, more power to you. You’re improving your talents and showing your kids how to work hard and there’s so much goodness to that.

But here’s my message…

It’s not a race.

I think it’s time for us to quit worrying about everyone else and start worrying about ourselves and the lives we are creating for our little ones. It’s so easy to compare our successes with others but really what is determined as “success”?

This week I turned off my “mompreneur” mode and decided to be 100% mom. I’ve been devoting my time to be on the floor, playing with my little boy and keep the screens turned off for a minute and focus on just being a mom–his mom. Projects are on hold and he’s center stage. I can’t describe to you the amount of laughs we’ve had and how much our connection and bond has grown just by putting other distractions aside.

I love this quote by David O. Mckay:

“This ability and willingness properly to rear children, the gift to love, and eagerness, yes, longing to express it in soul development, make motherhood the noblest office or calling in the world. She who can paint a masterpiece or write a book that will influence millions deserves the admiration and the plaudits of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters, whose influence will be felt through generations to come, . . . deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God.”

Women are amazing at multitasking, but sometimes I think our kids deserve to NOT be one of the “tasks” we have at hand. They’re apart of our lives and our time with them being this little doesn’t last very long. I don’t want to be too busy and have this sweet time slip from my fingers.

Something that has always bothered me is the “followers” social media has. It’s like social currency or star stickers. The more you have the more successful people think you are. I feel like it’s time to care more about who our little ones are “following” and what they are “liking” instead of worrying about the numbers on our accounts.

So to all my mompreneur friends out there, I think you’re doing an amazing job. And if you’re able to balance it all I would love to hear your tricks! Everyone is doing the best they can and that’s what counts! I just think it’s important that we all remember what really matters and that by “just being a mom” and putting our kids ahead of our other endeavors, we are actually a lot more ahead and “successful” than we might realize.

Xo,

Aubrey

 

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  • Jessica April 14, 2016 at 4:50 am

    Oh how I loved this post!! And needed it. Thanks 💕

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 14, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      I’m so glad cute girl!

  • Jessica Angel April 14, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    Hi Aubrey!

    I love this! As a mompreneur, it really puts what is important into perspective. For me, the balance is in being a mom while my boys are awake and working during nap time or after they go to bed. Sometimes it means late nights, but I never want my business to interfere with my kids. I think too, I’ve had to cut out other things that aren’t as important to me as my kids and my business. The time I would spend scrolling through social media is spent answering emails and promoting my business on Instagram. I don’t spend time sitting around and my house isn’t as clean as it could be. I think that it’s okay to do both but you have to realize that if you’re going to do both, you probably won’t get to where you want to be as fast as someone who works all day or doesn’t have kids. You have to be at peace with the fact that it may take you a little longer and you have to be at peace with it.

    But I love what you said about followers and likes!

    Thanks!

    Jessica

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 14, 2016 at 3:13 pm

      Jessica, you totally nailed it on the head! It’s about balance and putting your kids first. I love when moms have businesses and I’m one to have so much going on too. I love love love what you said about doing it all during naptime and late nights and not comparing yourself to those who do have more time to put into it. It’s not a race at all. I love everything you said! You totally got exactly what I was trying to say. Thanks for your comment girl! <3

  • Aarica Sohar April 14, 2016 at 5:21 pm

    perfect for where I am at right now! I have let go of running the race and now enjoying my life as “mom” again. It really is the best job ever!

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 10:05 pm

      Aarica, I’m SO glad. Sometimes we don’t give ourselves enough credit for being just a “mom”. It deserves all the credit in the world and I think you are amazing for enjoying being a mom right now. Those are the moments we won’t ever forget!

  • Robyn Proctor April 14, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    Love this! Sometimes life can feel like a race. It’s a shame how when people ask what you do you can sense that replying that you’re a mom just isn’t good enough for them. When did motherhood become something that needed to be justified with other goals and jobs? Don’t get me wrong it’s great to have other goals and jobs outside of our kids, but my son is definitely my priority.

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 10:04 pm

      EXACTLY Robyn. Why do we feel the need to explain ourselves? Being a mom is pretty dang hard sometimes! (and I only have 1 kid!!) Thanks for what you said, you speak to my soul!

  • Chelsea @ Life With My Littles April 14, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    I love this! And I totally agree. Last week at Disneyland I took a break and didn’t post on social media (besides scheduled posts) or on my blog, and it was so nice! Now that we’re home I feel like I just want to enjoy my kids. I love them so much and I don’t want the time to go by too fast. I’ve always saved my work for naptime or after the kids are in bed, and that helps a lot. But I’m scaling back a bit right now and loving it!

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 10:01 pm

      Yes! I’m so glad. I just don’t want these years to pass and then look back in a few years and think, “I missed it.” That would be a nightmare! Love your blog girl, you have so much good to share! Thanks for your comment!

  • Chanel Gentry April 14, 2016 at 7:45 pm

    This post totally hit home for me. I have been thinking I’m not doing enough by “just being a mom”, but I know it’s the most important thing I could be doing right now. Thank you!

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 10:00 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment. I probably need it more than anyone so i’m so glad you feel the same way!

  • Kelsi April 14, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    Wow- I loved this so much. I totally feel the race and you are right- I feel so much happier when I’m just playing with my kids and not worrying about my own personal side projects. You put it into words perfectly. Thanks for sharing!

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 10:00 pm

      Oh I’m so glad. Thanks so much for taking the time to read it. You are so sweet and I feel the exact same way, I’m happier when I realize my main “job” or my most important job. Thanks for the comment Kelsi! That means a lot!

  • Amber April 14, 2016 at 11:05 pm

    So well said, Aubrey. I love that quote from David O. McKay. I definitely feel a pressure to be more than “just mom”.

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 9:58 pm

      Thanks Amber. Isn’t he just the best for saying that? Love you girl, thanks for your comment!

  • Krista Bandy April 15, 2016 at 2:29 am

    I love this.. and I despise the word “mompreneur”. I am a mom & wife, that works from home, running my own business. I never use that word, it makes me cringe.

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com April 18, 2016 at 9:58 pm

      YES. I seriously hate that word!! You are 100% in one or the other just at different times. Thanks for your comment girl! I think you are probably rocking both. You totally nailed it on the head.

  • Dayana March 15, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Totally agree with you. Recently I was invited to be part of a book dedicated to mompreneurs, at the beginning the term was interesting but after researching I found out that it wasn’t right. I am a mom and I am a entrepreneur, but not together. It’s like mustard and jelly, they are delicious but separate 🙂
    For me it’s a daily balancing quest, specially because I am a single mom. So what I had being doing is dedicate spaces for each part of my life; while my boy is on the school, from 8am-3:30pm I do yoga, work, keep the house clean and food ready, etc… after 3:30pm no one from work can reach me because is time for my boy until he goes to sleep at 8pm. At the beginning it wasn’t easy to define this limits, specially about the work, but after a few months my clients understood my availability because I was clear to them and with myself, without the need to be on the race.

    • aubrey.olsen22@gmail.com March 15, 2017 at 3:14 pm

      Oh I loved reading your comment. It’s so true. You are such a good mama. Mustard and jelly is a genius analogy! Way to be girl. You’re little guy is lucky to have you as his mama!

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